How have you experienced both kinds of fear? (constructive & non-constructive)
I believe any fear can be constructive, if I can learn from it. On the other hand, non-constructive fear would mean (for me) holding onto the fear and repeating it over and over in my daily life.
Prior to working the 12 steps and actively working a spiritual program, I lived with several fears. I couldn't let go of them no matter what I did. They were prevalent in my life and permeated most of my relationships. The biggest two were death and abandonment. I was afraid of death - in myself and those I loved and I was afraid my husband was going to leave me. It didn't matter what he said or did to prove his love, I was still afraid of being alone. These fears were destructive because they affected everything I did and said. They also gave me reason (I thought) to eat.
They have also become constructive fears - I've learned they have nothing to do with death, abandonment or my husband. The abandonment has everything to do with the empty hole inside I've felt for as long as I can remember. The fears are about my need to trust a Higher Power with my life.
As this trust has emerged and grown, my fears have weakened and shrunk. They are gone, as long as I work all aspects of my program - physical, emotional and especially the spiritual. When I can feel my Higher Powers presence deep down inside, there are no fears.
I am not afraid when I live and work my program every day, with help from my Higher Power (God).
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